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Mother Time

By Pat Gima
Wisconsin, USA
From: NEW BEGINNINGS, Vol. 17 No. 6, November-December 2000, p. 202

From very early in our lives we begin to be rewarded for acquiring knowledge, thinking clearly, speaking articulately, responding quickly, and producing abundantly. As time goes on, many of us get very good at this and see ourselves as achievers. We can hold our own with the best of them!

Then we give birth and hopefully we enjoy all of those hormones that accompany feeding our baby at our breast. This is a part of being human that didn't get much notice in those achieving years, with their production and deadlines. Sometimes we differentiate by calling it left brain and right brain, but it goes deeper than that. We are in Mother Time. We see with "mother eyes." We are given an opportunity to experience the "peace at the center of the atom." (Madeleine L'Engle)

We may seem "less than sharp," but I believe that we are actually more than sharp. We are round and soft, and our vision is one that can see beneath and under and through. We are given "mega-hearing" in order to understand before words are clear, or without words being spoken.

The relaxing effect of prolactin enables us to see and to live in the now. It is a prism that slows our days so that we can experience the colors of our lives. It is what people go off to monasteries or into deep meditation to find.

Our "nursing mother's brain" is where poetry resides, where stories and lullabies are born, where games are created, and where we find ways to correct and guide without diminishing.

Instead of "zoning out," we "zone in." We are given the opportunity to go inside and find out who we are, for real, and to make friends with who we find there. We grow in confidence in our wisdom and our discernment. It is often hard to see this time in our lives as a gift when we are in the midst of it, but it really is. This is a sorting time and we come out of it knowing where we want to put our life's focus. We couldn't come to this knowing as easily without this slowed time. I invite you to accept this gift of an altered way of seeing and being. I hope you can enjoy your infusion of prolactin. You wouldn't want to miss it.

Reprinted from the Winter 1997-1998 issue of LLL of Wisconsin's Area Leaders' Letter, Badger Briefs.

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